tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post8383273699138902909..comments2023-04-12T04:12:38.662-05:00Comments on Tucker & Swiss: The new me?Cortney @ Box & Bayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00109800725758615841noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-45020621347060474652010-01-27T14:54:28.182-06:002010-01-27T14:54:28.182-06:00Hooah, Red Bulls!!! never thought I'd miss th...Hooah, Red Bulls!!! never thought I'd miss them... but hey, ya never know till you leave. <br /><br />LAWliberal army wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07182419669662838404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-73710071954300880272010-01-27T13:58:31.815-06:002010-01-27T13:58:31.815-06:00Tucker:
Congratulations on weathering your deploy...Tucker:<br /><br />Congratulations on weathering your deployment! I know you've probably heard it all before, but a lot of people who haven't lived the military lifestyle don't realize that it's not only the soldier who deploys, it's the whole fam-damily.<br /><br />It's also a rule-of-thumb that a deployment seems to make the strong parts of a relationship stronger, while also exposing the things people might need to work on. In the coming months, remember that your soldier may have changed a little, too. Remember to give yourselves permission to figure those changes out together. (One of my favorite Khalil Gibran quotes: "Let there be spaces in your togetherness ...")<br /><br />Post-deployment is often a second honeymoon, but, to borrow a phrase from my Navy buddies, it's also another "shake-down cruise" to make sure that everything in your relationship is tied down and shipshape.<br /><br />I can't wait to hear about your continued successes and insights, post-deployment. Thank you for your service, and for your soldier's service.<br /><br />My family and I are ramping up for our second deployment, by the way. By coincidence, on the same day you wrote this, I posted a few less-sanguine (panicked?) thoughts about facing a year apart over at: www.redbullrising.com<br /><br />Essayons!Charlie Sherpahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16791563886675329245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-85284568333733460562010-01-27T12:26:11.450-06:002010-01-27T12:26:11.450-06:00seeing changes was for my first, and then the seco...seeing changes was for my first, and then the second deployment. Whether or not I am changed by the third, I'm not sure yet. I don't think I'm doing too great right now.... but that's besides the point. <br /><br />Thanks for posting this. but hey (pssssss, come closer....) next time... put it on LF as well!<br /><br />LAWliberal army wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07182419669662838404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-46028043247313639992010-01-26T16:48:52.173-06:002010-01-26T16:48:52.173-06:00I would also like to say thanks for sharing your j...I would also like to say thanks for sharing your journey! i am almost to the mid point of the deployment and I am starting to see changes in myself too (positive ones :) and that makes me feel really good. It has been so awesome hearing about your experience right before I went through my own! Can't wait to hear about the redeployment phase :)Meghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07498237121707334582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-18957343842268175652010-01-26T12:15:52.855-06:002010-01-26T12:15:52.855-06:00WOW- thank you all for the awesome comments and su...WOW- thank you all for the awesome comments and support and kind words. Then mean the world to me.<br /><br />I wish I could say HOW I did this... I can't. I guess I just got tired of spending the emotional energy on the things I had no control over. I think the house selling mess helped that a lot. But at the end of the day, I just chose to focus on me and Swiss and the things that I could change, and I chose to come to terms with the things I couldn't, rather than fight them and lament them and let them consume me. It was more about survival than a conscious choice, but we all deal in different ways, I am sure you all will do great and grow and learn from your own experiences!Cortney @ Box & Bayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00109800725758615841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-21720337076534479692010-01-26T12:03:25.332-06:002010-01-26T12:03:25.332-06:00i know my husband is only gone for six(ish) months...i know my husband is only gone for six(ish) months, but i genuinely hope i come out of this with at least a sliver of the perspective you've gained. you're amazing.rachelhttp://confessionsofajerseygirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-87308634262275131332010-01-26T11:55:43.766-06:002010-01-26T11:55:43.766-06:00I have to say that I cry when leaving EngineerGuy ...I have to say that I cry when leaving EngineerGuy for the week. We live 4 hours apart and it sucks to say goodbye. That's what I'm dealing with right now, that's a 'big thing' in my life. I know it's going to get harder once he goes to TBS, flight school, etc. and I stay at my job, but I'll face it when the time comes.<br /><br />I'm glad to see you've noticed changes- I hope I can change and adapt just as well because NOT coping, to me, makes it harder to enjoy the relationship and what I have with EngineerGuy. While I'm still an emotional mess every so often (and I hate it!) I think I've come a long way since he went to OCS and I will go a long way as our lives continue to change.<br /><br />Reading your post makes me smile and gives me hope that I can adjust, too. "I can relate!" is what I thought while reading it.EngineerChicahttp://www.engineerchica.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-5105609394506099102010-01-26T11:52:33.387-06:002010-01-26T11:52:33.387-06:00I sincerely hope that I am you in a year. Truly. B...I sincerely hope that I am you in a year. Truly. But I guess only time will tell...Kaylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17093010971693415830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-6496290502071490832010-01-26T11:51:27.652-06:002010-01-26T11:51:27.652-06:00Tucker, this post makes me smile. I'm glad you...Tucker, this post makes me smile. I'm glad you've been able to see growth and positive change in yourself through all the @#$%^&* that the Army has sent you through.Post Tenebras Luxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00929680126232765165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-55133610532199339592010-01-26T11:49:13.065-06:002010-01-26T11:49:13.065-06:00Thank you USMCWife! That means a lot coming from y...Thank you USMCWife! That means a lot coming from you!!!Cortney @ Box & Bayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00109800725758615841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8362182565496754949.post-87601831961008538652010-01-26T11:35:39.180-06:002010-01-26T11:35:39.180-06:00I think f more spouses approached this the way you...I think f more spouses approached this the way you have they would be better off. You learned, you grew and you matured into this deployment. None of us start off warriors in this life, it is a cycle and change is neccessary to survive. I have really enjoyed reading your journey through all of this, and I have to tell you, I have learned from you as well. <br />Thanks for sharing.USMCWIFEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15353841768696096981noreply@blogger.com